And life goes on.... daily support.
I have a question for all of us out there, who have looked death in the face (oh so ugly) and said nah, not ready, go away. Those of us who wondered - "Will my body betray me next year? Will I be around in 5 years? Someone with just my diagnosis died quickly - could that happen to me?"
My family lost a lot in Superstorm Sandy. My sister and family and (mean nasty) put bull evacuated to me, but lost her basement, boiler room and a car. My uncle and his family did not evacuate and we got the panicked phone call at midnight as the water broke in the basement windows and rose several feet into their first floor. They lost their car, kitchen and living room, too. But no one got hurt, and their family, (nice) dog and bunny also lived with me for almost 3 weeks. (As an aside, I did not have electricity for 2 of those 3 weeks.) They are displaced, homeless, and all their records are gone. Their doctors, lawyers, accountants, vets, and pharmacists lost all their records, and the computers got fried. They lost many things and are shell-shocked.
But.... they lost things. Things can be replaced. Somehow I think I feel less sympathetic than I should. I tried a few times to remind them that no one got hurt, that they can rebuild (oh - why get flood insurance? Fema (aka us) will rebuild for you!), but it didn't go over well. I feel guilty, and relieved that they have moved out. My sister has rented an apartment - the pit bull had gone after too many people and dogs, and my parents (finally!!!) came home from their vacation and they will take my uncle.
I mean, am I a snob? "Oh, you didn't go through CANCER so whatever your loss is, it is not important" No, I didn't say that, I know their losses are great, but they lost things, not the security of knowing you will be here next year.
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dx 8/09, R double lumpectomy, invasive mixed DCIS/LCIS
ER + PR + Her -
1/3 Sentinel pos. 1/15 nodes pos
Stage 2A Grade 2, Nottingham 6
chemo A/C x4, Taxol x 4 started 9/21/09 DONE!!!
femara started 2/5/10
rads 2/8/10 DONE!!!
Now - osteoporosis? Vit D, calcium, and a baby aspirin to boot!