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LindaJG - Tuesday, February 11, 2014 6:27 AM
Just Diagnosed, very scared, i unfortunately know some people who are survivors, but would like to get some feedback on what to do next from other people as well. I do have great support from my husband and family, but would like to know how to help my children with this process as well? My daughters are 19 and 22 and my son is 17. Again, just starting the process, will be visiting surgeons and would like to know what i should look for. Any help is greatly appreciated.

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Re:LindaJG - Tuesday, February 11, 2014 12:36 PM
Hi Linda,

Just take one day at a time for now, all children regardless of age can be amazingly resilient I found and my daughter's were my rock and a great support to me. I'd be sure to tell them how so many new drugs have ensured there are many long term survivors and cancer is not what it once was!  
Please keep us posted on your treatment and what you and your surgeon decide on, weigh up all your options and if researching stick to reputable sites like here and 
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Re:LindaJG - Tuesday, February 11, 2014 1:45 PM
Hi Linda,

I agree with Tricia on all counts.  One thing - try to have another person with you at doc visits.  An extra set of ears is always helpful.  You will be getting lots of information, choices, etc.  Be sure to ask any question you want when talking to your docs/surgeons, etc.  Don't edit yourself.  

Let us know how you're doing.  We're here 24/7 :)


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Re:LindaJG - Tuesday, February 11, 2014 4:42 PM
Just saw your post. I was diagnosed with Stage IIB breast cancer January 2005. I was just about to turn 49 years old with one son who was a freshman away at college and the other a junior in HS who was 16. I worried more about my two sons than anything in the world. I couldn't even tell them I had cancer and made mu husband tell them. To tell you how resilient they are at that age - my 16 year old is now 25 and graduating from Med School ( I wonder what made him think of that) was the one home with me through everything even walked me out of the hospital after my mastectomy because I did not want to wait for the transport. He came to the first chemo session with my husband, he even had to drive me to appointments after my reconstruction (tram flap) all during his junior and senior years of HS. We visited colleges with my wig on ( Had to by a hat at one because it was so windy my wig nearly blew of)

He mentioned the other day when we were reminiscing of the time - he just thought I was sick with something bad and I would get better with the help of medicine and doctors. He never really thought about the word cancer and never really worried about something terrible happening. He mentioned how he was more into his 16 year old world> he feels bad about how he didn't think too much about it and I think it is great! 

I wish you the best of luck and try to keep a positive attitude. You children will greatly surprise you. Family is everything

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Re:LindaJG - Tuesday, February 11, 2014 10:35 PM
Hi Linda--It does get better and once your treatment plan is in place some of the scariest things will fade away.  Right now is the terrifying part. All the emotions are running rampant..  It will calm down once you have more information on the type of cancer and the treatment plan.

Know that there are women on this site that are long term survivors.  You found this site and more "sisters" than you realized.  We are hear for you.

Good luck.
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Re:LindaJG - Tuesday, March 25, 2014 1:36 PM
Journaling, prayer,open your heart to any support, from strangers, friends etc