who to tell, and how(stage 4)

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who to tell, and how(stage 4) - Sunday, June 15, 2014 6:51 AM
After finally adjusting to the stage 4 breast cancer diagnosis, although not fully, I'm wondering..what's the appropriate way to tell people, to explain or not explain any details, etc. I'm finding that after I returned to work, I was getting questions like,"how many treatments will you get", and "good prognosis?". I'm realizing that these people haven't had the breast cancer education that I have had in recent months. I don't want to disclose details, and I really would rather not discuss it with some of these people, as they are not what I would classify as good friends. Also, when running into old friends and acquaintances, not sure what to say, if anything. Does anyone have any suggestions? Sometimes people can be insensitive, although not intentionally, I think. I would rather people just treat me the same, and let's talk about something else! I've been saying things like "one day at a time".... Thanks for any input Jeanmac

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Re:who to tell, and how(stage 4) - Sunday, June 15, 2014 2:28 PM
I think I'd be inclined to say something like its treated as an ongoing chronic illness (rather than disease) until I show signs of remission, if you prefer to leave out the remission bit just say the first line and add but I'm doing well and tolerating it well too...I agree it can be difficult and people don't mean any harm but really don't know what we're/you're dealing with Jeanmac.
Tricia Keegan...From Ireland Dx July '05 IDC 3/9 nodes pos..triple positive..a/c x 4..Taxol/herceptin x 12
Herceptin 1yr ..rads x35 oophorectomy Aug '06
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